Many people leave something to want; or worse, you do not want them to do one thing – so they do not have to do one thing. They lack self-confidence to put their wishes and dreams into action. They do not dare.
Other people leave too much to do with themselves or plague themselves with self-doubt forever. They lack self-confidence to distinguish and represent their own desires and interests from those of others. They do not trust (trust) themselves.
Read onward to learn how to inculcate self-confidence and become version of yourself.
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Do not look for shelters
It is seductive, because we all appreciate support, security and our nests. But you only get self-confidence if you face the world and its challenges.
Do not limit yourself, do not be under pressure, and do not be small. That may be the easy and pleasant way. But you will never realize your potential. Self-confidence comes with the success, with the active doing. The more you “do”, so trust yourself, and the more success you get, the bigger it will be.
Also build dependencies and symbioses. Although they may also be pleasant, they also make you weak and “unfree”.
Do not be afraid of mistakes
I have often mentioned this point in my articles, simply because fear of error is a first-rate creativity killer. Those who do not want to make mistakes do not dare to innovate – and thus block their creativity.
However, he also blocks his self-confidence. Because if I live in fear of mistakes, I will never dare to go beyond my (previous) limits and just try something.
Learn to fall and fail
This goes in the same direction: many remain below their potential, just to reap no failures. It would be better to learn how to fall, fail – and get up and try again!
Learn to see your own achievements
As I said, self-confidence grows with the challenges you face, with the big and small successes that you can experience for yourself. Unfortunately, many of us cannot see their accomplishments and prefer to stare, like the rabbit in front of the snake, at their mistakes.
Do not think others are better than yourself
Do I have to say more? Those who idealize exaggerate and consider others better than themselves need not be surprised if, in comparison, they are small and insignificant.
Question, stick to reality and open your eyes: Are others really that much better than you? Basically, everywhere, and in everything? Are you “better people”?
From essay writers UK experience, I can tell you that it is very useful to pay attention to the mistakes and weaknesses of others. Somehow it is quite relaxing to see that others even “cook with water”
Stand by yourself and your own weaknesses
The hero in the “never-ending story” did not have to rely on himself. He first had to take care of that. As he was, with all the strengths and weaknesses.
At least try this for yourself. If you can, you will also “out” your weaknesses to others. First, it will, paradoxically, make you stronger than convulsively wrap your cloak of infallibility around you. And second, the others will love you for it. Who wants to live with a “Miss” or a “Mister Perfect”?
Pay attention and trust in your inner voice
Learn to perceive your own impulses and needs. Listen to your inner voice. Do not let them perish in the thunderstorm of others’ wishes. And take this inner voice seriously. It’s about you, not the others. Trust that you know best what is good for you and what is not.
If in doubt, listen to your stomach and body. What feels good? What is chilling your back? What comes to you as a blow in the stomach? Where do you feel annoyed, and where are you pleased and happy?
If you think highly visually, as I do, watch out for images that flash across your mind for a fraction of a second. And please, they should be involuntary unconscious images, not fictions that you create yourself. That’s a difference.
Learn to distinguish your own opinions and opinions
Many of us have learned to believe others’ wishes to be their own, or at least consider them more important than their own.
Of course, something will spring out for you, otherwise we would not do it. As a rule we are not that “masochistic”. That can be security, recognition, whatever. But the question is how high the price we pay for it.
The son who continues the family tradition while ignoring his own career aspirations. The woman who gives everything for men and children and loses herself. I could continue the list indefinitely.
The situation is similar with the opinions and judgments of others. Do not identify with these. Do not internalize it.
Watch for blockages in your life story
With missing or existing self-confidence one is not born, both are acquired. And the most important phase for this is usually your childhood and youth.
Therefore, knock off your life story. Try to understand what has shaped, strengthened or slowed you down. Perhaps you can correct the slowing down factors or promote the strengthening factors with hindsight.
Learn to recognize your own abilities
As I mentioned above, we are usually good at seeing our mistakes. In our successes, we have to make a little more effort. In our abilities, talents and gifts it often stops completely. Either we do not see them or we disrespect them.
Does anyone still wonder that you have to look for trust in yourself?
Pay attention to your self-image
Our self-confidence feeds directly on our self-image – and vice versa. If you see yourself as a “little weak mouse,” you do not have to be surprised if you even dare to do “mouse stuff.”